Why does this feel more like combat than sharing thoughts?
Are you guys intentionally mis-interpreting what Monkey is saying, or what?
Sincere question, there.
Sheesh.
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I’m sure it probably helps. I’m not a priest, but it still sounds fucked up to me. Other people’s marriages…IDK. I’ll take a hard pass on judging people for fucking that up.
While your marriage may be peachy-keen, puppies and roses, I’ve never actually witnessed that myself. So, good for you. Marriage way down here is often messy and not for the squeamish. I’ve seen a lot of bad stuff.
I’d rather tip-toe around that schit myself. Way around it. I don’t think somebody’s jacked up personal life is a good place to prop up my feet, for sure.
So, lets hear the New-World Translation of that. What am I missing? I was just told I was the one who brought up marriage because can’t read right too. I’m pretty sure that was some other kids, not me.
I dunno… I’m not re-reading the thread to see where the offense was made.
If it was me, I apologize… none intended.
I just read what Monkey posted there as affirming that we men often get our priorities screwed up. I know several examples I have used personally to know what NOT to do. Coming home, turning on the game, and tuning out is certainly not behavior to emulate.
I didn’t mean it to ridicule the dude I personally know who ruined his marriage this way. I’m pretty sure he’s not on this forum, afterall.
I’m truly confused as to why folks are upset over any of what was posted. Maybe a little grace is in order for us all. God knows I need it.
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So am I confused sir.
If you go around saying that most people who have hard lives deserve it, you’re going to upset anyone who has had a hard life, and also anyone who knows many people who have endured hardship they don’t deserve.
It’s not that complicated.
It’s comforting to believe in the meritocracy, but the data doesn’t support it, and the implications of that kind of a worldview has obvious problems.
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Ah… I must’ve missed that in the thread.
I certainly hope it didn’t seem like I implied that.
Well, some people who have had hard lives kinda’ deserve it, but you know… not most.
Another huge group have had a hard life because of their own actions… again, that’s different than “deserving it.”
The first 20+ years of my life were rather nasty… had a few bumps since then, but thank God it’s pretty smooth sailing, now.
People get what they deserve. Hard work pays off.
I had a had a hard life. So I worked hard and changed it.
The lesson is:
“A man reaps what he sows.”
Galatians 6:7
That goes without saying, but “humility” is the word I was looking for. I guess I just couldn’t stand to hear somebody blowing their own horn over and over.
This idea that people are to blame for their own calamities has it’s limits, just like the “Look at me, I did it all by myself,” proclamations. There are way to many other people involved in both the catastrophes in life and the triumphs.
I have no idea why some guy is ignoring his wife for a video game, but I do know he might have reasons. I’ve met women.
I don’t know why that guy is living in a van down by the river, but I know it’s possible it’s not because he wasn’t trying hard enough to pull himself up by the boot-straps. So, I just have to call BS on that whole paradigm.
Bad schit happens to good people. It just doesn’t make a good after school special, and Disney will never tell you the story about some guy that did everything right, worked his ass off for the good of people who hated him, sacrificed everything for strangers who would laugh at him, and then was murdered out of jealousy by his loved ones, while the public cheered, but I think it happens more often than people are aware.
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Thanks for the reply. I think I get it.
As for the dude I was referring to, for the most part, I was on the outside looking in. There were signs he was a bit of a narcissistic Man Child kind of guy. But, obviously, I’ll never know the whole story. I do know he hooked up with some chick he was having an affair with after the split. The wife remarried and had that normal life thing going on last I saw her. She was 10 years married last we spoke, so between the two, I gotta assume the dude was the majority of the issue.
I still take the whole thing as a warning how NOT to live your life… How NOT to be a man, husband & father. Unfortunately, most of the examples I’ve learned from have been of the “don’t do this” variety.
I had horrible roll models growing up, so kinda’ behave like a sponge when men talk about their lives. I didn’t take what Monkey was saying as bragging. I can see how one might see it that way, but I’m just listening for clues on how to do all of this… adult/man/father/husband stuff. I’m coming up on 50 years old & still feel I have a lot to learn. If some dude on some video game forum has some nuggets of wisdom to pick up, I’m picking them up.
I won’t get into it much but the limited work I’ve done with the homeless and people “on the fringe” has been eye-opening. The sad reality that the vast majority of permanently homeless have mental issues or chemical dependency problems. It’s illegal to FORCE the mentality I’ll into treatment, so their issues often simply spiral out of control. To a lesser extent, the same is true of the drug addicted.
What fascinates me is that there ARE people out there who seem to prefer to live homeless… Obviously, this is a tiny percentage of people, but it is fascinating. If I were to be completely honest, when life gets heavy the idea does seem ever so slightly alluring. 
Imagine… no responsibilities beyond today’s food…
I think the problem is that everyone insists on all the caveats when you say something like that.
People get what they deserve*.
*except for cancer, train wrecks, alien abductions etc etc etc…
I read what you wrote and I guess I just filled in the caveats. I don’t want to read the caveats. I just assume they’re implied.
One take-away from all of this is how easy it is to misunderstand one another on a forum like this.
Another might be CrossOut is HARD if you’re not trying. Life is worse.
If you’re good at either, I’m all ears.
Carry on, good men… I think everyone actually contributed things worth reading far more so than the local news.
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I took a few pictures here before I uninstalled it. Who knows if it will ever change that you won’t encounter legendary weapons on ps 6000. And the waiting time is also amazing.
Have a good time. I’ll be back.
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This may be weird, but as the time goes, some F&F ideas (about family) are actually speak to me, as some good points. Even if the message is ham-fisted and even if the movie is a mess. That’s important; family goes first. No videogame is worth losing your family over it.
And you have a good time, too 
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Yeah man, half the time on this forum
You have to write two paragraphs to explain the first sentence you wrote. Then 10 more posts to explain the paragraphs.
Then after that everyone still does not understand, because they have already went off on a tangent about something else that had nothing to do with what anyone said.
Yeah you should stay on topic lol
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What did I miss? Anything interesting?
5 years of XO for me and I enjoy the game more and more. Even as the devs nerfed my fav cannons into the ground - they gave plenty more in other weapons. In fact I’ve never liked the game more than now. My attitude is the combination of my growing proficiency and the devs constant work on the game - I very much appreciate the effort they put into it.
It seems to me that some gamers expect some perfect game. What does it mean - that there is a perfect build that will always be meta? I don’t think that is the case here, and that is great. I think the changes in balance, the buffing and nerfing, the new parts, etc, all of that actually fits the lore, the everchanging shifts of balances of the uncertain world of XO.
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It seems that true love does not have to be a woman 
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